Michael Golek, Harpswell
2008 Travis Roy Courage Award Recipient
In 2007, the Maine Games presented the first Travis Roy Courage Award, to an athlete who has demonstrated uncommon courage, determination, and dedication; overcoming tremendous odds to participate in sport.
Travis Roy is a Maine native who, eleven seconds into his first collegiate hockey game for the Boston University Terriers, crashed headlong into the boards, breaking his neck. After extensive rehabilitation, Travis serves as an inspiration to countless people all over the world for his own determination in overcoming obstacles and challenges placed in front of him every day. The Travis Roy Foundation raises money and provides support for spinal cord research. To learn more about the Travis Roy Foundation, go to: www.travisroyfoundation.org.
This year Harpswell native, Michael Golek, 18, is the recipient of the second annual Travis Roy Courage Award, which will be presented at the 2008 Maine Games Opening Ceremony, on June 20, at Colby College, in Waterville.
When he was seven years old, and a second grade student, he was run over by a school bus. The days, months and years of rehabilitation, have given this young man of tremendous strength and courage and the ability to compete as a wrestler at the Maine Games and tournaments all over the state, as well as to become an outstanding citizen, and an inspiration in his own right.
The Maine Games is honored to present the 2008 Travis Roy Courage Award to Michael Golek.
Can you describe what happened?
Michael Golek: It happened in the afternoon. The bus stopped and my sister got off while I waited for the bus driver to give me my green ticket. The green ticket was because, as my mom says, I was an active kid and was on a behavioral plan everyday. If I was good, the bus driver would give me a green ticket and when I got home I got points and so many point got me an award.
That day, I got off the bus as usual. It was winter, so I had a snowsuit on and my back pack was on my back. I started to cross the road and the bus started moving towards me, I tried to run and push myself away from the bumper but I didn't make it. I think my bag got stuck on something. Soon, the bus was dragging me down the road.
I was screaming and then I was on my back and the tire went over my middle and then the rear tires went over my legs. I'll never in my life forget that pain. I was screaming. My sister who was five at the time, was in the road trying to pull me out and then suddenly, there was a man who told me I was going to be ok. In that moment I was just kind of numb. He said his name was Allen or Mr. Allen. I don't remember which, but just as he appeared, he was gone. His name today doesn't really matter now, For me he was my guardian angle that stopped that pain and gave me the faith that I was going to be fine.
The ambulance people were there and working on me. My mom she showed up and I gave her my green ticket that was still in my hand and said I had a good day.
I was in the ambulance. My mom was there too and then at the hospital. I couldn't feel my legs but I remember my doctor, Dr. Wren, being there. I remember, he didn't look so well. My lower abdominal area was getting really big and the doctors there kept poking at my feet and legs and asking me if I could feel it. I could not. Then they put me back in the ambulance (to Portland's Maine Medical Center) and I don't remember a lot about the ride except my mom talking to me and telling me she was right there and that I was going to be ok. I do remember jumping when ever the siren wailed I was awake all the way, up until they took me in for surgery.
How long were you in the hospital?
Michael Golek: According to my mom, not as long as everyone expected. I believe it was two weeks. I told my mom I wanted to go home and she found a way for that to happen for me. I had surgery on my right femoral artery and was left with about eight fractures in my pelvic area. I had stitches around my right ankle. It was hard at the hospital. I was in a lot of pain when I first woke up and for days I could not eat, and my body was all swollen. I had a tube that was feeding me.
Were you an athlete before your accident?
Michael Golek: I played tee-ball and some basketball
Did you play any other sports before or after your accident?
Michael Golek: Yes, wrestling, football and track after my accident. And basketball and I think some baseball before my accident.
Where there any people you would like to name who helped you recover and get back to a normal life?
Michael Golek: There are a lot of people that have helped me and some who probably don't even know how much. First, my family. My mom and her partner Johanna, and my sister Kelly, who I will always see as my little hero on that dayshe was there trying so hard to pull me out of the road. And my gram. They were all there for me. My mom never left the hospital she stayed right in my room the whole time I was there. My family is still there for me. To be honest, some of my issues have not been that easy to deal with. I am lucky to have the family that I have. Also, I would have to say thanks to all the people at my church at St Paul's who prayed so hard for me after my accident.
Tom Kivler, who has spent time talking with me about my issues for, well lets just say for years, teaching me how to cope with emotional issues that I was left with after my accident. Then there was all the mail from other students and people all across the country. I got bags of letters. Also, all of my wrestling coaches who have really been there for me over the years. But I really have to thank one coach in particular a little bit more. Coach Michael Taylor was my first coach. He was there from peewees through high school. He just always seemed to have a way of understanding me.
For example, he was there for me after the accident. I could not get near a bus for many years with out reliving parts of my accident. My mom drove me everywhere until I think about eighth grade. Then a van would pick me up from school. Well, one day there was a wrestling meet and coach took my back pack and told my mom I'd be fine. He said to me, "Get on. You can sit with me." That was the first time I'd gotten on a school bus since I was seven. I think I shook inside the whole way there but I made it to the meet and back and I was ok. This was the beginning of me being able to get back on a school bus from home to school and back I don't know that that would of happened with out his help.
Do you know where I can find them or how to contact them?
Michael Golek: Coach Taylor is the head coach for the Mount Ararat middle school wrestling program
Were there any setbacks in your quest for returning to a normal life?
Michael Golek: Yes, and still some struggles, but they get better every day. I was left with P.T.S.D (post traumatic stress disorder) Now, since the accident, I have it under control, but it has been a struggle to get a grip on it.
How long have you been wrestling?
Michael Golek: I just finished my tenth year with the (Mt. Ararat) Eagles.
How many Maine Games have you participated in?
Michael Golek: This summer will be my fourth Maine Games wrestling tournament.
What medals in what years did you win?
Michael Golek: In my first year, I didn't win any medal. At my second Maine Games, I took silver in the high school division and in the third year I won the gold in the high school and open divisions.
Do your friends or even opponents know what you've been through?
Michael Golek: Some of my friends do. I am not sure that any of my opponents knew it. It's not something that has been easy for me to talk about.
How would you describe being chosen for the 2008 Travis Roy Courage Award?
Michael Golek: It was a surprise. It's a good way for my to say good-bye to my bus accident
Cheryl Golek (Michael's mother)
What was your first reaction when you heard Michael had been injured?
Cheryl Golek: I think I was in shock. It was defiantly the most surreal moment in my life. Michael was only seven years old when he was run completely over by his school bus and had extensive life threatening injuries. We were told at the time he was admitted at Maine Medical Center, in Portland, that the outcome was unknown, but with this type of accident Michael would most likely have serious internal organ damage like kidney, bladder, bowels, etc, and with his vital signs where they were that they were not sure why he was even still awake.
Michael stayed awake the entire time and was busy assuring me and others that were close to him that he was going to be just fine. After several tests it was determined that Michael's right femoral artery was severed and his abdomen was swelling from internal bleeding.
He had eight pelvic fractures or more and his left ankle was cut to the bone. Michael stayed awake the entire time right up until he was taken into surgery to replace his femoral artery. The only time I left his side was when he went through the operating room doors. Michael came through the surgery well but the next 48 hours were critical. His condition was up and down for over a week. We were told he may not grow right because of the damage done in his pelvic area. The extent of his nerve damage at the time was unknown.
How did you cope for the first couple of weeks after
Cheryl Golek: Faith and a lot of prayer. I believed with everything that he was going to be ok and in the same breath, I was scared to death that I maybe wrong. Michael came through the surgery well but the next 48 hours were critical. His condition was up and down for over a week. His whole body swelled up, he was in a lot of pain. He ran very high fevers and did lots of hallucinating. He was in agony. He couldn't eat and that was all that he wanted to do.
We were told he would be in the hospital a very long time and rehabilitation would take longer. I was told that he would take months of physical therapy before he would walk and that he may not grow right; something to do with the fractures and his hip plates. After two weeks at Maine Medical Center, Michael was able to eat solid food and begged me to bring him home. On December 1, Michael came home from the hospital in a wheel chair. He received in-home therapy and educational tutoring. By the time February vacation rolled around he had given up his wheel chair. Over February break that year, we took the kids to Disney land and left his wheel chair home.
Were you over-protective of Michael after he began his recovery?
Cheryl Golek: I think I became over-protective of both my children for many years. Michael rebounded way faster then anyone could have predicted. I don't think I slept a full night for years. I would wake up in panic and have to go check on both of my kids some times several times a night. I wanted life to return to normal as soon as possible. Michael went back to school in a wheel chair and he used a walker for a while.
What was your reaction to his choice of wrestling as his favorite sport?
Cheryl Golek: The following school year, after his accident, Michael joined the pee-wee wrestling program in its first year at Mt Ararat. It's been non-stop wrestling ever since. I was supportive of him wrestling but also afraid for him. Michael was a very small kid. I think he was less then 60 pounds when he started wrestling. As a result of the accident, Michael was left with post traumatic stress disorder. Because of this, he could not get a scratch with out reliving some trauma, and for the first three year of wrestling, he cried a lot. But he would not quit even though he was constantly given that option. By sixth grade, he went to the state wrestling tournament. By eighth grade, he took third at the States, and in ninth grade he had an incredible year making varsity as a freshman. He finished third at Essex Junction's tournament, then was injured just before regionals that year. But he came back to win the JV state championship. In eleventh grade, he placed 1st in the regionals and fourth at states. This past year, which was his final high school tournament, he placed second at the Kennebec Valley Athletic Conference's tournament, second at regionals and fourth at states. He got his 100th career win at the KVACS.
How did his accident impact your family?
Cheryl Golek: It was a traumatic experience for our whole family. We all had to adapt to different needs. And we still continue to do so.
Do you still think about his injuries now when he competes today?
Cheryl Golek: Only if he gets hurt. It is not a thought before any more. I love to watch him on the mat. I am probably his number one fan
How would you describe the young man he's grown into?
Cheryl Golek: Well as far as growing, correct, he is over six feet tall and weighs 184 pounds.
Michael loves wrestling but he is not just a wrestler. He is a very talented, caring, hard working young man. After September 11, Michael and his sister raffled off his computer. He donated the money to the Red Cross to help the victims' families. He sings in honors chorus at Mt. Ararat High School. He is a member of the Journey to Adulthood (J2A) program at St Paul's Episcopal Church in Brunswick, and was an acolyte there for a number of years. Through this program, he was able to go to India this past summer with his sister and the J2A group to do missionary work which was a life altering experience for him. Michael has taken the hard road on many things, but he never gives up in anything. On the wrestling mat, he gives his heart and soul .Michael has grown into to a very kind caring young man. We are all very proud of him
What does the choice of Michael for the Travis Roy Courage Award mean to you and your family?
Cheryl Golek: Michael said to me after being told he would get it that it is a nice way for him to say good by for good to his bus accident. I think that says it all.