In post-season play, athletes must step up their game in order to be successful and make it to the championship.
And in order for you to help your athlete play their best, you must step up your game as a sportsparent. You can do that by committing yourself to these rules of conduct:
Believe. The hard work and skill that got your child and his team to the playoffs will help them compete in the post-season. Let your young athlete know you are confident that he will do his best and perform well. Donʼt put doubts in his head with comments like, Are you nervous about the BIG game? or I hope youʼre up for this!
Build up your child by supporting her and loving her unconditionally after each game, no matter how great or how poor her performance.
Back off. Now is not the time to start nagging your kid to condition or pushing them to try harder. If it hasnʼt done any good before, it wonʼt help now. Let them learn through this experience that preparation and hard work do pay off.
Bend. The play-offs could be a time to make exceptions and cut your child some slack. They are feeling pressure and sometimes itʼs okay to bend the rules--let them skip their chores for one night or watch more TV than usual.
Break free of team squabbles or coach-bashing. Now, more than ever, parents need to be positive and express support. If you have issues with the coach or other parents that need to be addressed, wait until the play-offs are over.
Band Together. Support the entire team by cheering for everyone, not just your child. Be an encouraging voice for every player on the field or court.
Bow out. Let the coach do his job, without interference. You may not agree with his philosophy or his style or his strategy, but as long as he is not doing anything immoral or cruel, let him coach. If you think you can do better, then put your name in for the job next year.
Brace Yourself. Post season play can be a roller coaster ride. The drama, the frustrations, the challenges, the joys--are all magnified in the play-offs.
Brush off mistakes. Help your child put errors behind him. Remind him that one person does not lose a game; a team does. This is especially hard when they make a mistake that seems to tip the game one way or the other.
Breathe Deeply. You will feel nervous. Your stomach may be in knots. Sometimes parents are more worked up than the kids. Take a deep breath, relax. This is supposed to be fun! Take pictures, enjoy every moment. These are memories you and your child will talk about for years to come.
Janis was brought up in a sports family, married a man who has coached for 27 years, and has had three kids play sports from age 5 to college. She sees issues a bit differently, with a perspective of life from both sides of the bench--as a coach's wife and as an athlete's parent. jbmthinks.blogspot.com
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