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Jim De Boer
Jim De Boer
Hockey, Soccer, Parenting, Safety

What can parents do to squelch an unruly fan?

We have all had it....the parent of a player on your child's team who is out of control, abusing the officials, abusing the opposing team, and generally bringing discredit to the game. What can a parent do to stand up or stop this behavior?

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  • Sara Bender
    Sara Bender
    Answered April 12, 2009
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    In my experience, I would say let an official or someone on the board of the league know. If they signed a parent conduct form before the season the coach or officials probably need to hold a meeting to confront this person. I wouldn't let the parents handle it, these things could turn ugly that way.

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  • Nikki Cox
    Nikki Cox
    Answered April 14, 2009
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    thet someone who is incharg know

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  • Alexis Bushika
    Alexis Bushika
    Answered April 21, 2009
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    tell them POLITELY that you are not having a great time watching your kid out thier because you are fighting with officials, and if he/she want to take it up, talk to the umps or whoever is in charge AFTER the game, because them yelling at the officials is not changing anything, its just a waste of time and an interference in the game....

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    1. I definiatly agree with you. From exprience, that would be the easiest thing for you to do, in my opinion.
      Sydni Grace Carter · October 09, 2011
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  • I9 Sports - South Orange County
    I9 Sports - South Orange County
    Answered April 22, 2009
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    An established league policy towards parent conduct and a league official at EVERY game is the only way to ensure this gets handled in the appropriate manner. Just as Mrs. Bender says about the parent conduct form being signed, or agreed to during registration, is a key factor in enforcing parent conduct during games. The Positive Coaching Alliance has some great advice for all of these type problems.... check them out! www.positiveocoachingalliance.org

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  • Craig Mcmillan
    Craig Mcmillan
    Answered April 22, 2009
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    like everyone else said most leagues these days have player and parent conduct policies if they do check into that and remind the parent.. if not go to a league offical.. youth sports are supposed to be about the kids learning.. some parents forget that...

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  • Jim Bates
    Jim Bates
    Answered April 27, 2009
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    Of course we all have established league/club policies and some level of enforcement , 2 things you can do ... if on your sideline ... share a bag of tootsie pops... otherwise just lead by example

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  • LaShanna Mc Curtis
    LaShanna Mc Curtis
    Answered April 29, 2009
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    It's not easy to step up and ask parents to behave. The kids usually feel so bad when their parents rant and rave. I tend to start cheering. I cheer loudly and proudly and it usually draws other parents in along with me. Being positive tends to spread. I also like the tootsie pop idea.

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  • Rick Mixon
    Rick Mixon
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    Report this to the home team head coach. He should confer with the other coach
    and with the umpire who is likely already aware of the situation and just waiting
    for a complaint to come to him.The Ump can offer to forfeit the game. A board
    member of the home park can also eject this person from the park for the day.

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  • J Collins
    J Collins
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    We ask our parents to find a board member (we are all in red offical shirts during games) and to let us know what is occuring. We then remind our parent that we are all there for only one reason and to honor those we are at the field to support..

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  • John Barata
    John Barata
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    We have educated our parents in town not to be abusive towards the referees, players, parents or anyone for that matter. We have a code of conduct, however, we also have confident parents that have simply approached other parents (from opposing teams) and simply tell them that "we are not allowed to coach or shout from teh sideline onto the field - please respect that"

    Now - I would be cautious on who you approach and how...however, it is our game and we need to help keep it clean.

    Thank you to all the wonderful answers prior -- very insightful!

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  • Jerry Rasmussen
    Jerry Rasmussen
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    team meetings and peer pressure. talk to the parents and make them understand that the games are all about the children not the parents or the coaches. i believe in talking to the person first, but if this fails talk to the organization. they will correct the situation to provide a safe environment for everyone. if all else fails show them my response. i have 35 years of coaching experience all at several different levels.

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  • Jennifer Smith
    Jennifer Smith
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    As an umpire I don't put up with much when it gets abusive to a player, coach or umpire. If the fans are tired of it then approach the umpire or official of the game inbetween innings and ask them if they would mind removing the fan from the stands. If it happens that the umpire asks the fan to leave the proper paperwork would be completed by the umpire and presented to the proper board members for them to review and make a decision on if the fan is able to return to the park. If the fan is suspended for a few games and knows why maybe he/she will not be so abusive when he/she gets to return and then they can place him on a conduct contract at that time for future games. As a parent approaching another parents about their behavior never turns out with positive results. Allow the coach or the officials to take control, more than likely that abusive fan is already upset with them anyhow.

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  • Duane Hardwick
    Duane Hardwick
    Answered May 05, 2009
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    It is a very difficult issue to deal with because you will all be together for the rest of the season or even longer. one approach would be at the end of the game during the team and parents meeting. We sometimes have two one with just the players and coaches and right after with everyone. try to work it in at this time on reminding everyone that we they to keep everthing on a possitive level and not be little other teams or officals even when they make bad calls. Now everyone will know who you referring to with out namedropping.

    If that does not work they are so cuaght up in the game they don't relise how bad they are acting. Have someone video tape the whole crow and how everyone is acting and the also the unruly fan and also the people arround them showing the disappointment and reactions. Than show the footage to all, like posting it on your teams site, and with some luck they will see how bad they are acting and behavior will change. If these two fail than a hard approach is nessary.

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  • Teresa Smolinski
    Teresa Smolinski
    Answered June 08, 2009
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    I've seen the lollipop idea work for fans that are hyper and a not-so-subtle hint works. The best thing I've seen is when a coach pulled the offender's kid out of the game until the parent shaped up.

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  • Debbie Bracewell
    Debbie Bracewell
    Answered July 08, 2009
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    We have this problem in cheerleading as well. I know gyms who have banned parents from attending events after a lengthly process of meetings, signed forms, etc. I like the idea of video taping the offensive behavior.

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  • Lisa Sylvia
    Lisa Sylvia
    Answered August 01, 2009
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    IF THE PARENT HAS BEEN WARNED ON MORE THAN 1 OCCASSION AND CONTINUES TO BE A DISTRACTION TO THE PLAYERS/ FANS THE MANAGER OF THE RINK CAN AND SHOULD BAN HIM
    NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE ARGUES THE OFFICIAL ISNT GOING TO CHANGE HIS CALL IN FACT IT MAY AFFECT THE CHILD OF THE PARENT THROUGH THE OFFICIAL

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    1. ALSO AS COACHES AND PARENTS WE HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO INSTILL CHARACTER, RESPONSIBILILITY,PRIDE AND SPORTSMANSHIP WITHIN OUR PLAYERS AND CHILDREN
      Lisa Sylvia · August 01, 2009
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  • Jim Bennett
    Jim Bennett
    Answered August 11, 2009
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    Our league and head coach both have the parents and players sign a Code of Conduct form at the beginning of the season. Since the standing rule is "If a parent disrupts the game and the ref gets involved it will result in the Head Coach being suspended and fined" the Code actually pushes both to the parents ... the Head Coach will still be suspended but the parent responsible is liable for the fine and the player is suspended from the team & league for the season. We have seen this happen once in 3 years, and the league and conference both backed the head coach completely.

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  • Trenton
    Trenton
    Answered April 18, 2010
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    thet someone who is incharg know

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  • Alene Saltsman
    Alene Saltsman
    Answered April 30, 2010
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    PRAY that God will help them with there attitude every night and day!
    and tell the person incharge.

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  • Heather
    Heather
    Answered July 13, 2010
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    I know how parents feel, but being a player of the parent's team is worse. My all star team had a parent who was constantly screaming her head off about your glove being on your knee. She was so annoying!

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  • Rebecca Watson
    Rebecca Watson
    Answered July 18, 2010
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    tell the official and your coach and they will either get thrown out or told to be quiet

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  • Michael Chabus
    Michael Chabus
    Answered August 13, 2010
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    bleep

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    1. haha:)
      Brooke Antonio · April 15, 2011
    2. haha funny
      Cheyenne · October 31, 2011
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  • Jordan Ward
    Jordan Ward
    Answered August 23, 2010
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    tell the official and he should take care of it

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  • Lexi Campbell
    Lexi Campbell
    Answered October 26, 2010
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    Tell the parent that an official told you to make them stop otherwise they will be kicked out if you are the coach. If you are another parent tell them to stop because their kid will HATE it if they are screaming the whole time.

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  • Joseph
    Joseph
    Answered November 06, 2010
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    Report it the the league

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      Ara · November 06, 2010
    2. yeah same here
      Cheyenne · October 31, 2011
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  • Carter
    Carter
    Answered November 19, 2010
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    tell someone in charge of the league !!!!

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  • Skylar Madison Clapp.
    Skylar Madison Clapp.
    Answered November 26, 2010
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    well, this happened to one of my games. we were beating them 7-0. and the coach kept telling the ref. we were playing to dirty and that he needs to call it when we were just playing normal aggressive soccer.so, then this parent was yelling at the ref. and the ref was young and didn't know what to do. so, he didn't say anything but, after one of there girls got hurt. they for fitted. then the officials came up to us at the end of the game and they asked us what happened and we told them the whole thing.and that parent wasn't allowed back ever again! so, my advice is just tell the officials or ref. ((if he is experienced)) at the end of the game.

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  • Spencer
    Spencer
    Answered December 07, 2010
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    I realy don't know

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  • Spencer
    Spencer
    Answered December 07, 2010
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    Squelch them

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  • Michael People
    Michael People
    Answered December 23, 2010
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    i would talk to all of the parents before the game and remind them of the policies concerning the game and what is to be expected.

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  • Kayla Ford
    Kayla Ford
    Answered January 18, 2011
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    If you are enjoying the game don't get involved, if urn't and u want to be kicked out go ahead no ones stopping me. With my experience don't get involved. your kids will be embarrassed and it will not only set a bad rep. with u, your kids, even your entire family.

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  • Bryn
    Bryn
    Answered March 04, 2011
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    I don't have a lot of power sinc eI'm a kid, but I'd try asking them politely. If that doesn't work you need to get the officials in.

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  • Polly Jo White
    Polly Jo White
    Answered March 20, 2011
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    One day we got out the pom poms and sat right in front of th eregular loud mouht and every time he stood up to sound off we all jumped up and started to cheer louder than his big mouth-HA

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  • Brooke Antonio
    Brooke Antonio
    Answered April 15, 2011
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    tell someone who works there and they can kick them out. i have never done this before but i i know it works.why did u ask that question anyway,and unruly sounds funny :)

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  • Joy Rom
    Joy Rom
    Answered April 21, 2011
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    just tell the ref and he will take care of it

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  • Buddy Hallum
    Buddy Hallum
    Answered June 16, 2011
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    tell the ref

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  • Scott Price
    Scott Price
    Answered July 13, 2011
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    Stick a sock in their mouth.

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  • Patricia Harte
    Patricia Harte
    Answered September 01, 2011
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    i feel that if the child is doing their best and having fun adults should not expect anything else buildling children up gives them a good sense of self and confidence to great things in their life sports might not be their future

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