Our son plays U12 Travel Soccer. He joined this team this year. This team has had the same core players for about 4 years.
At a game this past week, the coach sat Ryan on the bench for the entire game. There were times when he was the only child sitting on the bench, and it was humiliating for him. I questioned the coach after the game, and her response was that she did not feel his skill level was up to that of the other players. Having been a part of the soccer community for over 15 years, and having attended all their games and all their practices, I do not see any difference in skill. They are 10-12 year olds who are just beginning to get the feel for controlling the ball and field position. No one child on this team, including the coach's son, stands out as a stellar player.
One of the problems we are having is that there is no sense of team, and our son stands as an outsider much of the time. In retrospect, I can see how this effects his play and perceived desire to play. The coach did say she would work harder to promote the concept of "team", but I feel this was a comment made to appease my discontent with her coaching choices.
There is a large tournatment coming up which requires a substantial amount of money to play as well as time to travel and participate. At this point, I am not sure if it is in Ryan's best interest to participate. On the flip side, I do not want to be believe it is okay to quit when things don't go the way you have hoped they would. Ryan even expressed that he has joined this team to play as part of team, and he has been given very little opportunity to do so. He is discouraged.
As a parent, I am so torn. There are very few other opportunities for him to play travel soccer in our area. I want my son to learn the right lessons. I want him to love the sport for all the right reasons.
Anyone have any advice? What do I do if this continues?