stick up for your grandfather and tell them that he has never done anything to your team.

I have done that, and they always tell me he's annoying and they cant stand him and they wish he did help..and it hurts alot and i have stuck up for him, but im afraid my team will hate me too if i stick up for him.

It's best if you stuck up for your grandfather. No matter what your team thinks being afraid is the worst possibly thing to do.

Alexis,
You are in a tough spot. It sounds like your grandfather is not the coach-just an assistant or helper. If this is the case, your coach likely is aware of the problem, or at least should be. You should have to shoulder none of this responsibility. Be polite to your grandfather and lead your team by example. It's up to your coach to determine what to do with the team and your grandfather.

Fire him. Plain ans simple. Chemistry is everything and the last thing you want is players on the field quitting.

I'm sorry about your situation.

My opinion is that your team should be grateful that they are receiving help on improving their game. I'm not saying that your grandpa is a bad coach, because i am sure he is wonderful. But, i have had a few not so great coaches, and I learned the best way to deal with it is too treat him with respect and do everything that the coach asks. I hope your team figures that out soon. I say you should stand up for your grandpa, because he does not have to be there helping your team out.

thank you everyone. my grandfather has been a baseball coach for 15 years and the past 5 years i've played softball, he does research and helps sooo many girls on the team. they just dont want him there because they just want my head coach..and i doTOO. but i just dont want to get into a fight with my teammates because we are all really close to eachother and i dont want to hurt my grandfathers feelings... hopefully i can have a talk with my grandfather, or my head coach. and coach Swanson he isn't a paid coach..he is just a volunteer and helping out of his time, so my head coach loves that he helps, and that he knows so much, my head coach has no problems with him...my teammates just dont want to open up to a new coach...i think thats what it is..

do you feel like your grandfather is a good coach? if so explain to them that he doesnt have to be there and where they would be w/o a coach? i know its harder said then done because at the same time you dont want your team looking at you funny or anything but i think you should stand up for him im not saying go to pratice tommorow and curse all the girls out but you will reach your breaking point trust me i was in the same situation w/ my father just find it in yourself to stand up for him because they probably keep saying stuff because they know they can and they know your not going to say anything.

I could almost take this personally as I am going to coach my oldest granddaughter for the first time. I have coached on and off for the last 30 years or so and I have learned quite a bit; from clinics, other coaches and the kids themselves. If he knows the game and is willing to learn, have him tell the team he is willing to learn also. The problem arises when we oldtimers don't adjust to modern ideas and are too hard on the girls. If this is the case, let him know he has to lighten up a little. You must be a fantastic granddaughter if you want to help your granddad!

I agree Al. I too have been coaching 30 years +. I'm not a grandfather yet, but I hope that my experience will be valued and put to use when I'm blessed with grandkids of my own.

Baseball coaching and softball coaching are so different because of the different ways that boys and girls approach sports at a young age. Boys can be yelled at, and most don't take it to heart, but young girls do. Sit down and talk to you Grandfather about how it is different to coach girls vs boys. I would also recommend getting your Grandfather a book on Coaching Girls, the book(s) is hard to find, but if he loves to do homework on the sport, I am sure he will read and study it. Good luck. Coach Bob 10U Fastpitch