You need to confront the coach...The HEAD COACH. But do this in an appropriate manner. Some coaches are total a holes though and don't want to be bothered with anything that does not side with their little world..Talk to them in an email and ask if its ok to speak on the phone. Then discuss what is troubling you. DO NOT LOSE SLEEP OVER IT!! If the coach is reasonable then the issue should be resolved in a timely manner and done discreetly as possible so as not to hinder the TEAM in any way! Good Luck.

Candice, a good question. It's all about communications, a good coach will have a meeting with his parents before the season and explain most of the situations that come up during the season, playing time, practice time, how your son/daughter can improve, what his/her coaching philosophy just to name a few. This give both parents and coaches a venue in which to discuss issues.
Parents are always going to advocate for their kids and that's not a bad thing, most good players have involved parents.
But the other side of the coin is parents who over advocate and have unrealistic ideas of their childs ability, little knowledge of the game and what it takes to get better, so I guess I am saying there's two side to coin and the only way to resolve these issues is solid non-confrontational communications between both parties.

Well, I play softball. My coach won't stand for it. He told us at the beginning that our parents can't say anything mean. Wich I so agree. The parents need to learn how to control themselfs.

I agree with Coach Moore wholeheartedly, and in to some degree what Abbigail's coach advocates. Personally, I got to know my son's coach prior to the season in an attempt to preempt issues. That didn't work as well as i would have liked, because the coach lied to me during our interview (he said he would have none of his kids on the team...funny he neglected to mention twins). So, working with the coach won't always work. At some point, I realized that it wouldn't even be a good idea to talk to the coach because he was "too far gone," and I had nothing positive to say. This came from a realization that the coaches have volunteered their time to work with kids, which many parents can not do. Fortunately, our team has a board of directors, which i joined prior to the season. I strongly suggest that you go to those meetings and contribute at that level because that gives you the proper venue when issues arise.

Tae Kwon Do is not a team sport. However, often times the judges want their schools, and hence their students, to do well at the tournaments that they sponsor. At Tae Kwon Do tournaments, parents are also rather ridiculous. I've had to stand up to parents arguing to judges that my son should be disqualified simply because he would beat their kid at sparring. When one parent in particular gets out of hand and complains vocally, i normally head him off and remind him that the judges are the experts. Sometimes judges try to throw matches. It is best, however, to go to your particular black belt instructor. You can't usurp every incident. However, once i mentioned to the judge that i was recording this on my camcorder, and he stopped the behavior. You're never going to solve or prevent every issue. Some of it is unfortunately just the nature of the beast.

AGREE WITH ALL. BUT, PARENTS WILL NEVER AGREE WITH WHAT REFS SAY NOR WILL THEY ALWAYS AGREE WITH THE COACH. BUT, ANY PROBLEMS, A GOOD COACH WILL ALWAYS TAKE TIME TO EXPLAIN WHY HE DID WHATEVER HE DID. SO DONT BE AFRAID TO APPRAOCH A COACH. I AM THE OFFENSIVE COACH OF THE BX WILDCARDS AND BELIEVE ME, PARENTS THINK THEIR CHILD IS THE BEST THIS, THE BEST THAT. AS A COACH YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH CRAZY THINGS.

Well i don't always agree with my kids coach but i will stand behind them regardless. especially during games. but if i feel a technique was incorrect i teach my kids a different one til they get comfortable. see coaches most often don't have the time to coach all the kids til all of them get it right in time before a game. thats when as a parent you should reinforce the technique or put a little extra practice at home. Don't go messing with coaches about gameplans a playbooks. let them worry about that, if you don't like his/her coaching do it yourself. Unless of course its about unfair playing time or its becoming a danger to the kids. then by all means do the mommy-daddy thing. But why a coach went for it instead of punting is something you need to let go. or why your kid isnt the QB or first string just let it go.

Coach Moore has much wisdom. I've coached and also been a parent of a child athlete and can say I've never had a coach get the parents together at any point to discuss and/or communicate philosophy, strategy, or anything else regarding the team. Would have been great to have this open meeting at the beginning of each season.