Well im a bball player, but heres my idea... just start giving him sighns, and tell him you need to motovate them, not yell at them.. but still make arangements 4 golf, dinner, or whatever you guys like 2 do.. if tht doesnt work tell him you need someone with more experince, and dont let him go, just get someone else who actually has coaching backround and let him sit on the sideline with the players... (thats what my coach does)

Tim,
Tell him what you said here; that all of the kids, even the lazy kids, need only positive motivation. He is most likely coaching the same way he was coached. Let him know that coaching methods have changed. Let him learn from your examples, provide him with coaching class opportunities. Coaches are hard to find. If he has the desire to coach he just needs your leadership.

Hey I'm all for yelling. Some kids need to see some emotion coming from coach. But I do agree it can't be negative. Your the coach so it's your job to make sure everyone on the team is being taught right. That includes your coach and parents. Have a meeting before practice and announce that anyone who yells at the kids in a negative manner will be suspended from watching a game according to your rules. If you don't wanna be the one to make the rule ask the league commissioner to back you up so you can say it's a league rule. Now you've addressed the problem without singling him out and can safe face. And you've given him a warning. Also you can ensure parent cooperation.

make him keep the scorebook

Coaching is an art. It take the right blend of positive reinforcement and punishment to teach kids how to be effective. My advice is to be yourself. You have a style and a personality that is uniquely yours. You can use it to be a powerful motivator with your kids and your assistants.

Your buddy may have a different style than yours. If your styles clash, set things straight. Even if that means letting your friend know that he is not needed anymore.

talk to the school and set up a meeting and u can discuss the situation calmly and take it from there good luck

I had a similar situation recently where the head coach put the kids down and yelled. I do believe and understand that there are times where yelling is the only way to get there attention, BUT if things are done in a correct manner and the children respect you, then this would not happen.

In my situation, I was the assistant coach and I bonded with all the parents and children, so when problems started arising very early into the season, I was the one they came to. I tried to defuse the many different issues, but in the end we needed a meeting with the board and I knew how it was going to go, so I made sure to just keep my mouth shut until spoken to, and just let her "Run off at the mouth. Some things I wanted to just cut her off, but I didn't because I knew she would beary herself, and sure enough she did.

My point is, if there are problems and you have others to back you, then I would first talk to your friend and put him on some sort of warning and if that doesn't work, follow the chain of command. In the end it really isn't about us coaches and/or parents, its about our children and they deserve the respect that we expect from them. It's only fair.

Sorry, I just really had to put my 2 sense in, because I really just finished the season about two weeks ago and man, it was not easy, but I did it.

Hi Tiffany,
I regret each of the very few times that I've had to yell in anger at kids. It shows lack of control and frustration. Best to control the temper, ponder the situation overnight, and confront it logically at an appropriate time. Using profanity is never, never, never acceptable for players or coaches. It demonstrates that the user is not intelligent enough to express himself/herself with civility.

Share with this coach your philosophy on handling motivation and inspiration to children.
You must be on the same page when it comes to giving direction to youngsters. If this coach seems to be in the way more than an asset to you and the team, then point out that yelling is unexceptable and make it clear your exspectations on coaching children. You are the coach and some times we have to teach parents the values along with our kids!

I DO BELIEVE THAT PLAYERS BOYS OR GIRLS NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT TO MAKE THEM A BETTER PLAYER THEY NEED TO BE TOLD IN A GOOD WAY WHEN THEY MADE A MISTAKE BUT IN THAT SAME SENSE THEY ALSO NEED TO BE PICKED UP AND TOLD WHEN THEY DID A GREAT JOB TO.BUT IF IT IS A ASSISTANT COACH AND NOT THE HEAD COACH LEANING ON THE PLAYERS THEN THE PLAYERS WILL LOSE RESPECT FOR THE HEADCOACH.AND THEY WILL START BELIEVING THAT IF MY HEAD COACH WILL NOT STAND UP FOR ME THEN WHO WILL! IF YOU ARE THE HEAD COACH THEN YOU HAVE GIVE HIM SOME IDEA THAT HE HAS AS MUCH CONTROL OVER THAT TEAM AS YOU DO AND IF YOU DONT STAND YOUR GROUND WITH HIM YOUR TEAM WILL NOT BE THERE MUCH LONGER. HE OR SHE IS GROWN AND IF THERE FEELINGS GET HURT THEN SO BE IT.BETTER THAN 10 BALLPLAYERS

If he is your personal friend, go have a beer, and give him your coaching philosophy and expectations. Tell him what you are observing and tell him to fix it. He might be aware of what he is doing but doesn't have the tools (knowledge) to change his behavior.
You can teach him the basic fundamentals in positive or negative reinforcement. Positive reinforcement= Praise, criticize, praise. Negative reinforcement= expectation given, if it is not met there is a consequence, if it is met there is no consequence.
Yelling at a kid or adult (to intimidate or create fear) to motivate someone works once or twice, shock factor. After that the kid or adult will become more lazy or just tune you out all together, they're nifty like that, cracks me up.

Lastly, If he has no business coaching, tell him you no longer need his help and thank you.

tell the owner and he will get fired